There is no escaping ourselves performing, even when we are alone. Shakespeare words it masterfully: "All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players."
*I would urge you to get out more, Janu. As one who has always been inexorably drawn to solitude, I have come to realize that it is important for us to go out for no reason at all, and there's nothing wrong with the occasional promenade. Take life easier while you can, and put yourself out there before you get so used to being alone or staying in that every outing makes you miserable.
I completely understand this feeling. I think that sometimes we prefer to stay inside because the outside world is so fucking overwhelming. I'm very sensitive to noise for example, I get very over-stimulated by it and I literally can't handle night outs. Sometimes when I was living in Ireland I would take 13h shifts in my work so I had an excuse not to go out because at least then I was getting paid. I always wanted that more than going to a club where everyone is wasted.
but at the same time I'm such an outside person. Sometimes I think it's more about the plans you make with people: a walk by a river, a coffee, a one night sleeping in your car while looking at the mountains, a two day renting a little house in a group so we can play games and get to know each other better... there are so many cool plans but god at our age people love such awful things hahahaha (like clubs). Also I've been telling myself that it's fine if i meet up with someone and I'm not my most amazing high-energy self. I can be tired too. So many relationships I have have been improved by this. at the end of the day they are my friends, I'd rather see them and maybe they can think I'm a little low energy, than not see them.
anyway thank you for writing this janu, this is just my little perspective on it 💗
Thank you for sharing this sweet Gala ♡ Your perspective is so comforting. Also I get it, the overstimulation, the noise and how draining certain social settings can be. Relatable.
I'm also someone who loves the idea of simple, meaningful plans like a walk, a cozy trip or just existing together without pressure. And that reminder that it’s okay to show up as our tired, unpolished selves? I needed to hear that. It’s better to show up imperfectly than not at all!!!
I feel seen. I usually decide to stay in and I get made fun of all of time and I think it's hilarious because fomo doesn't exist in my mind. I love being in my safe space.
I so relate. Especially the part where you say, “I never regret it” when you chose to say no to an invite. Not once have I had a bad time in my little haven-lying on the sofa, with a comfort movie in the background. We should never feel selfish for protecting our peace.
This feels like a love letter to us homebodies. Thank you for opening up a space in the world for those of us who want to hide away from it -- those of us who feel our best at home.
Much of this story reminded me of the Kafka quote.
"I was ashamed of myself when I realized life was a costume party and I attended with my real face."
Once we come to that realization, the facade of everyday life feels harder to brush past.
Your words feel like a warm hug!!! That Kafka quote ♡♡ Thank you for sharing this, it feels like a reminder that we’re not alone in wanting to step back from the noise. 💕
as someone who'd much rather stay at home most of time, I relate to this deeply--I especially fail to understand how some people can travel so much, I rather sleep in my own bed🫶🏽
I totally loved this post from you, Janu...we are so alike, dear. It seems like I have been...Janu-fied. 😅
(Bad joke, lol)
But honestly, we can't live up to the society's expectations every single time. We need our own logging off as well, and it is by staying away from stuff.
I spent my twenties going out as much as possible to bars, nightclubs, parties…whatever. Sometimes I had the best night, but actually most of the time it was nothing to write home about and someone argued. Now I’m in my thirties, I stay at home more often now in the evening. And I never regret it.
There is no escaping ourselves performing, even when we are alone. Shakespeare words it masterfully: "All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players."
*I would urge you to get out more, Janu. As one who has always been inexorably drawn to solitude, I have come to realize that it is important for us to go out for no reason at all, and there's nothing wrong with the occasional promenade. Take life easier while you can, and put yourself out there before you get so used to being alone or staying in that every outing makes you miserable.
You are right...I’ll take your advice to heart and try to step out more ♡ I love this comment and thank you so much.
I completely understand this feeling. I think that sometimes we prefer to stay inside because the outside world is so fucking overwhelming. I'm very sensitive to noise for example, I get very over-stimulated by it and I literally can't handle night outs. Sometimes when I was living in Ireland I would take 13h shifts in my work so I had an excuse not to go out because at least then I was getting paid. I always wanted that more than going to a club where everyone is wasted.
but at the same time I'm such an outside person. Sometimes I think it's more about the plans you make with people: a walk by a river, a coffee, a one night sleeping in your car while looking at the mountains, a two day renting a little house in a group so we can play games and get to know each other better... there are so many cool plans but god at our age people love such awful things hahahaha (like clubs). Also I've been telling myself that it's fine if i meet up with someone and I'm not my most amazing high-energy self. I can be tired too. So many relationships I have have been improved by this. at the end of the day they are my friends, I'd rather see them and maybe they can think I'm a little low energy, than not see them.
anyway thank you for writing this janu, this is just my little perspective on it 💗
Thank you for sharing this sweet Gala ♡ Your perspective is so comforting. Also I get it, the overstimulation, the noise and how draining certain social settings can be. Relatable.
I'm also someone who loves the idea of simple, meaningful plans like a walk, a cozy trip or just existing together without pressure. And that reminder that it’s okay to show up as our tired, unpolished selves? I needed to hear that. It’s better to show up imperfectly than not at all!!!
Thank you for this 💗
Hi ,
Lovely post . There is nothing worse than a performance that isn’t you .
I agree!
I feel seen. I usually decide to stay in and I get made fun of all of time and I think it's hilarious because fomo doesn't exist in my mind. I love being in my safe space.
My twin!!! Yesss for me It's ROMO 😭 (Relief of missing out)
here's to the homebodies who choose to stay in to acquire peace which nobody else gives them
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I so relate. Especially the part where you say, “I never regret it” when you chose to say no to an invite. Not once have I had a bad time in my little haven-lying on the sofa, with a comfort movie in the background. We should never feel selfish for protecting our peace.
Exactly! Glad you could relate to this 🤍
Yes yes and also yes
This feels like a love letter to us homebodies. Thank you for opening up a space in the world for those of us who want to hide away from it -- those of us who feel our best at home.
Much of this story reminded me of the Kafka quote.
"I was ashamed of myself when I realized life was a costume party and I attended with my real face."
Once we come to that realization, the facade of everyday life feels harder to brush past.
Your words feel like a warm hug!!! That Kafka quote ♡♡ Thank you for sharing this, it feels like a reminder that we’re not alone in wanting to step back from the noise. 💕
I really hope you are able to open your planetarium café someday! It sounds like a beautiful idea.
I know right? 🥺 Thank you Aliena 🤞🏾🤍
as someone who'd much rather stay at home most of time, I relate to this deeply--I especially fail to understand how some people can travel so much, I rather sleep in my own bed🫶🏽
Thank you for reading beautiful emma ♡
I totally loved this post from you, Janu...we are so alike, dear. It seems like I have been...Janu-fied. 😅
(Bad joke, lol)
But honestly, we can't live up to the society's expectations every single time. We need our own logging off as well, and it is by staying away from stuff.
Love you, girl!! ❤️❤️❤️🥰
Haha Janufied? I like it I might have make it as my publication name or something 😂 Thank you for reading sweet girl <3 Love you too
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Such a great read!!! So relatable♥️😩
I don’t know how many times have I refused going out with people and this is the reason why!!
This made me feel heard. Thanks 😭😭😭
How do I like this a million times !!😩😬
How do I make everyone read this and understand!!!😂
I feel like you get me when I read what you write. I genuinely love being alone and it’s so hard to explain to people but this is exactly that feeling
I spent my twenties going out as much as possible to bars, nightclubs, parties…whatever. Sometimes I had the best night, but actually most of the time it was nothing to write home about and someone argued. Now I’m in my thirties, I stay at home more often now in the evening. And I never regret it.
It only took the first sentence for me to feel heard. I love this post so much.