gaggem queen. I want to yell all your words out loud. There was a moment I found... idk? I think victimhood may be the people who are suffering with the most attacks. I mean, if we think about it the victims are at the BOTTOM suffering because they cannot see the other side. Blindsided. And yes, hypersensitivity exists because cancel culture created it - not the gals and hals who have been HURT. This was such an insightful post tho. Victimhood has changed and evolved so much. But in ways that are haunting. Victims have grown accustomed to pain and I think it is one of the scariest things to exist in this world today. Would love to hear your thoughts.
I love LOVE Doja Cat for being unapologetically herself even though she has a lot of haters and can be controversial at times. I agree that we get sucked into these echo chambers both in real life and on the Internet. I've scrolled through posts that have made me uncomfy, but I usually just provide an alternative POV if I choose to comment instead of personally attacking the author. Some of the great philosophers fundamentally disagreed with each other, but they resorted to logic for a healthier discourse instead of fallacies.
This was so good, I had to read it twice...no 3 times, in fact!
You summed up everything so well, that it feels like there's almost no need for another article on this subject.
This trend of cancelling other people and spreading private conversations on public timelines is increasing. I think it stems from boredom and empty minds. These people are too loud, so we need to somehow make them fade into the background. There are good and strong people out there we can have a conversation with! I know it, because I found someone like you!💓
i think if you offended people with this you achieved exactly what you were trying to do. the problem with people now is that their beliefs and opinions are EVERYTHING to them. so much so that society thrives on these hypersensitive individuals. because if no one was arguing on social media probably no one would be using social media. and those mobs of fans are the reason why some of these celebrities are so well known (swifties for example). i've actually had "friends" of mine refer to their idols as actual angels or gods and tell me i should worship them. i was so repulsed that i stopped listening to those artists all together. you captured very well the essence of our sad modern society. i just wish that i had people who are open minded enough to send this to 😞
This was a TOP NOTCH read, you conveyed everything that I wanted to say. And the "celebrity & fan culture " segment and the "politics & religion " segment was rightly executed. Like YES, EXACTLY.
This is going to be long, but please bear with me.
I grew up with parents who screamed at me for expressing my opinions. So, throughout my childhood, I didn't speak up, I didn't think at all. I obeyed everyone. I was "nice". To keep up my image of "obedience", I started lying, because I couldn't speak the truth or opinions because I would have gotten in trouble if I did so. Gradually lying became a habit and my subconscious nature. I turned into a compulsive liar. I didn't realize my issues even when I became an adult. I lied constantly in all my relationships, and I couldn't do anything about it because lying came subconsciously, I wasn't doing it intentionally. My broken childhood also made me unable to accept criticism, because everything I did was met with screaming. I thought everything that I did was wrong.
Now, put social media in the place of my parents and replace me with you. Do you see it? Social media is doing the same thing with you. Everyone is already pretending, lying. If they don't realize it or have a boundary, they will start lying in their real lives. They will go on to have fragile relationships and lead miserable lives.
It already has begun. Divorce rates are high, cancelling culture, online backlash. I recently saw a woman divorce her husband because he playfully put a piece of cake on her face on their anniversary and it ruined her make up (for me its just playful romance), but for her, it was an "attack on her self-respect and consent".
So many people write constantly about how "men are so trash". They talk as if they have never met a great man in their lives. They talk, forgetting that India still doesn't have a proper legal law that protects men from sexual assault. Can you imagine that? A man has been raped and he can't do nothing about it! They call men trash, but they don't talk about the emotional pressures men are put up with. Now, don't mistake me as a man, mansplaining. I am a transgender woman, and I have had great men in my life.
People who get offended by this post are on the lowest of rungs when it comes to emotional maturity. You aren't offending anyone at all. You have written it all so politely, its as if my grandmother is explaining something nicely to me. I can see that you are still afraid about an online backlash. Don't be. At least you have realized yourself your truth and are trying to change it. I hope you the best.
I personally don't understand te playful vake in the face or anything else that ruins/dirties whatever you have. I am sort of overprotective about my stuff. It might have come from me being bellowed at for my stuff getting ruined (even though someone else was at fault). Heck, this was the reason i tried to tidy the home after i walked in into a robery when i was around 8-10 years old, because i already saw my parents blaming me for the mess that the robbers made due to pattern recognition (reality was that when they came home they have asked me why i was tidying up and that i should not have touched anything). Not to mention that we didn't have much money, so i could not replace a ruined thing.
So i don't find it funny/playfull for someone to ruin my stuff.
There is also the thing that people might not see tge effort you put into the thing and thus by ruining the effort you feel that all that effort was down the drain.
And let's not forget that stuff accumulates. The cake might have been the straw that broke the camels back.
Also, it is no longer seen as playfull when you inform that you don't find something funny and the person just turns the thing to 11. This is how my brother got bit into the arm till blood began to flow as they did stuff/frustrated, i was annoyed and instead of stopping doing the stuff, my brother increased the intensity (i was around 4-7 years old at that time).
Primed to be emotional versus primed to be measured. You can't have thoughts that inweave and create a denser perspective, just divvied. Is it easier to eat an organ heart or gummies. they must be approved or not approved in the mind of the person whose love is only for their tribe. They won't even do you the justice to properly counter before pulling a knife to shut you up. people crave the sweet comfort and affirmation, rather than actually awaiting a sharp response that sharpens the discussion (for my intended meaning, imagine a knife cutting holes to be filled) It is only natural. Sharpening hurts, something dull/being dull does not.
I saw the note of that post of that guy too. It wasn't harmful in anyway. In fact I thought that's what substack is about, sharing ideas, thought and feelings. I think we have all become to sensitive. Like I can't even write my newsletter without thinking twice or thrice about what would potentially trigger someone like wtf😭
I clicked on this without checking who wrote this but in the first paragraph itself I could tell who the writer was.... Your writing has officially registered in my brain.... Meanwhile the article... I have some unpopular opinions which I refrain from sharing because of the hypersensitivity of people.... I sometimes remove stuff from my post to avoid a block and stuff... I don't mean to be incelish but the female dominated substack, led by the Twitter style cancel culture is just not it. That note got me feeling so sad cause in the comments people were actually defending the lady... There are countless other times where men and women, talk out of proportion just to hurt the other gender or maybe garner approval from the same gender.... I don't get it tbh. We were put on this earth together.. and this attitude of i don't need a man/woman in my life is going to lead us to doom... I feel this hypersensitivity came out from the feminist movement.... No I'm not saying we don't need feminism.... I'm a feminist myself but the way the feminist side has gone is just not right... I hope whoever reads this reads it with an open mind and doesnt immediately argue without substance... Again I'm way too young to say I'm right about what I think so maybe I'm wrong.. peace<3
Really well said! I love the inclusion of the psychology research. This is definitely a hard pill for people to swallow.
gaggem queen. I want to yell all your words out loud. There was a moment I found... idk? I think victimhood may be the people who are suffering with the most attacks. I mean, if we think about it the victims are at the BOTTOM suffering because they cannot see the other side. Blindsided. And yes, hypersensitivity exists because cancel culture created it - not the gals and hals who have been HURT. This was such an insightful post tho. Victimhood has changed and evolved so much. But in ways that are haunting. Victims have grown accustomed to pain and I think it is one of the scariest things to exist in this world today. Would love to hear your thoughts.
I love LOVE Doja Cat for being unapologetically herself even though she has a lot of haters and can be controversial at times. I agree that we get sucked into these echo chambers both in real life and on the Internet. I've scrolled through posts that have made me uncomfy, but I usually just provide an alternative POV if I choose to comment instead of personally attacking the author. Some of the great philosophers fundamentally disagreed with each other, but they resorted to logic for a healthier discourse instead of fallacies.
This was so good, I had to read it twice...no 3 times, in fact!
You summed up everything so well, that it feels like there's almost no need for another article on this subject.
This trend of cancelling other people and spreading private conversations on public timelines is increasing. I think it stems from boredom and empty minds. These people are too loud, so we need to somehow make them fade into the background. There are good and strong people out there we can have a conversation with! I know it, because I found someone like you!💓
i think if you offended people with this you achieved exactly what you were trying to do. the problem with people now is that their beliefs and opinions are EVERYTHING to them. so much so that society thrives on these hypersensitive individuals. because if no one was arguing on social media probably no one would be using social media. and those mobs of fans are the reason why some of these celebrities are so well known (swifties for example). i've actually had "friends" of mine refer to their idols as actual angels or gods and tell me i should worship them. i was so repulsed that i stopped listening to those artists all together. you captured very well the essence of our sad modern society. i just wish that i had people who are open minded enough to send this to 😞
This was a TOP NOTCH read, you conveyed everything that I wanted to say. And the "celebrity & fan culture " segment and the "politics & religion " segment was rightly executed. Like YES, EXACTLY.
This is going to be long, but please bear with me.
I grew up with parents who screamed at me for expressing my opinions. So, throughout my childhood, I didn't speak up, I didn't think at all. I obeyed everyone. I was "nice". To keep up my image of "obedience", I started lying, because I couldn't speak the truth or opinions because I would have gotten in trouble if I did so. Gradually lying became a habit and my subconscious nature. I turned into a compulsive liar. I didn't realize my issues even when I became an adult. I lied constantly in all my relationships, and I couldn't do anything about it because lying came subconsciously, I wasn't doing it intentionally. My broken childhood also made me unable to accept criticism, because everything I did was met with screaming. I thought everything that I did was wrong.
Now, put social media in the place of my parents and replace me with you. Do you see it? Social media is doing the same thing with you. Everyone is already pretending, lying. If they don't realize it or have a boundary, they will start lying in their real lives. They will go on to have fragile relationships and lead miserable lives.
It already has begun. Divorce rates are high, cancelling culture, online backlash. I recently saw a woman divorce her husband because he playfully put a piece of cake on her face on their anniversary and it ruined her make up (for me its just playful romance), but for her, it was an "attack on her self-respect and consent".
So many people write constantly about how "men are so trash". They talk as if they have never met a great man in their lives. They talk, forgetting that India still doesn't have a proper legal law that protects men from sexual assault. Can you imagine that? A man has been raped and he can't do nothing about it! They call men trash, but they don't talk about the emotional pressures men are put up with. Now, don't mistake me as a man, mansplaining. I am a transgender woman, and I have had great men in my life.
People who get offended by this post are on the lowest of rungs when it comes to emotional maturity. You aren't offending anyone at all. You have written it all so politely, its as if my grandmother is explaining something nicely to me. I can see that you are still afraid about an online backlash. Don't be. At least you have realized yourself your truth and are trying to change it. I hope you the best.
I personally don't understand te playful vake in the face or anything else that ruins/dirties whatever you have. I am sort of overprotective about my stuff. It might have come from me being bellowed at for my stuff getting ruined (even though someone else was at fault). Heck, this was the reason i tried to tidy the home after i walked in into a robery when i was around 8-10 years old, because i already saw my parents blaming me for the mess that the robbers made due to pattern recognition (reality was that when they came home they have asked me why i was tidying up and that i should not have touched anything). Not to mention that we didn't have much money, so i could not replace a ruined thing.
So i don't find it funny/playfull for someone to ruin my stuff.
There is also the thing that people might not see tge effort you put into the thing and thus by ruining the effort you feel that all that effort was down the drain.
And let's not forget that stuff accumulates. The cake might have been the straw that broke the camels back.
Also, it is no longer seen as playfull when you inform that you don't find something funny and the person just turns the thing to 11. This is how my brother got bit into the arm till blood began to flow as they did stuff/frustrated, i was annoyed and instead of stopping doing the stuff, my brother increased the intensity (i was around 4-7 years old at that time).
I'd more context for that cake story (whether it was a whole cake or just a piece), but besides that I wholeheartedly agree.
It was a piece.
Primed to be emotional versus primed to be measured. You can't have thoughts that inweave and create a denser perspective, just divvied. Is it easier to eat an organ heart or gummies. they must be approved or not approved in the mind of the person whose love is only for their tribe. They won't even do you the justice to properly counter before pulling a knife to shut you up. people crave the sweet comfort and affirmation, rather than actually awaiting a sharp response that sharpens the discussion (for my intended meaning, imagine a knife cutting holes to be filled) It is only natural. Sharpening hurts, something dull/being dull does not.
I saw the note of that post of that guy too. It wasn't harmful in anyway. In fact I thought that's what substack is about, sharing ideas, thought and feelings. I think we have all become to sensitive. Like I can't even write my newsletter without thinking twice or thrice about what would potentially trigger someone like wtf😭
I really needed this. I’m fed up of stupid people feeling attacked on social media and politicians getting mad at the smallest of things.
Loved this!!
Worth a read!!!♥️
I clicked on this without checking who wrote this but in the first paragraph itself I could tell who the writer was.... Your writing has officially registered in my brain.... Meanwhile the article... I have some unpopular opinions which I refrain from sharing because of the hypersensitivity of people.... I sometimes remove stuff from my post to avoid a block and stuff... I don't mean to be incelish but the female dominated substack, led by the Twitter style cancel culture is just not it. That note got me feeling so sad cause in the comments people were actually defending the lady... There are countless other times where men and women, talk out of proportion just to hurt the other gender or maybe garner approval from the same gender.... I don't get it tbh. We were put on this earth together.. and this attitude of i don't need a man/woman in my life is going to lead us to doom... I feel this hypersensitivity came out from the feminist movement.... No I'm not saying we don't need feminism.... I'm a feminist myself but the way the feminist side has gone is just not right... I hope whoever reads this reads it with an open mind and doesnt immediately argue without substance... Again I'm way too young to say I'm right about what I think so maybe I'm wrong.. peace<3
The way I feel like every word of this was pulled from my brain is ridiculous. You said this so eloquently and it's just brilliant.
I needed this ngl Janu so thank you for being firm and standing your ground 🫡✨